You have three identities – what others think of you, what you think about yourself, and who you truly are. The three identities may look very different.
Further, others often don’t see you as you are. They see you as they are. They will only change their opinion of you once they change. That’ll take a long time.
A good interim solution – Let go of the desire to please everyone. Know that we all have our asymmetries and scars which make us human.
If they can accept you with your imperfections, great. If not, then focus on the rest seven-and-a-half-billion.